To The New Stepmom.

 Are you a new stepmom? Or do you know a new stepmom? If so, would you share this post with them.

Here are a few things I wish I knew at the beginning.
  • It’s okay to ask your spouse and your step kids questions. We jump into their world and don’t know everything.
  • It’s okay to want a break from the chaos.
  • It’s okay to have all the feelings toward their mom.
  • It’s okay to challenge “the way it’s always been done”.
  • It’s okay to bring your own flare to parenting and your house.
  • I know this isn’t always possible, but move into a new house once you are married. Trying to fit into a life you were not apart of, is really difficult.
  • Embrace your role as stepmom. Don’t try to be anything other than what you are.
  • Be interested in what they are telling you, even when it’s hard or starts with “my mom doesn’t do it like that…”.

What help would you give? Share in the comments below.

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