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The unnatural struggle.

  Recently, Brandon and I were in Phoenix. We were down there for work meetings, but of course spent a lot of time with family and some friends. Each time a see a friend I haven’t seen in a while, one question always comes up.  “How’s stepmom life?” Here’s my current answer, as it has changed over the years.  I have it easy but it is still so difficult. I have it easy because the kids love and respect me and my role in their life. It’s hard because it’s so unnatural. It’s hard because while I am one of their parents, my voice doesn’t carry the weight of their biological parents. That’s not their fault, that is just the reality of this role. I follow a lot of stepmoms on Instagram, and I think it is safe to say we all feel this way.  The ones who have it easier than others and the ones who struggle just to make it through the day.  It’s hard because it’s so unnatural.  There’s a constant struggle inside of me, am I asking too much of them? Will they resent me if I make them to do more