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Christmas.

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What a wonderful Christmas week! Brandon truly made Christmas magical for us all. We went ice skating, made gingerbread houses, saw Christmas lights, watched Christmas movies, and had some amazing family time. This was our year for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, so we truly made the most of it.  It is also our last Christmas day with Avery, as she will get to choose who's home she is in when we are together on Christmas day again.  Christmas Eve of full of family time, church, and a fancy dinner. We also opened stockings and pj's, but out pj's were not the standard Christmas pjs, we instead opted for matching SKIMs sweats and sweatshirts.  Highly recommend. The kids had a wonderful Christmas full of presents, laughter, and food.  We made carne asada on the Blackstone, and finished the night off with pazookies.  It was an amazing few days before Brandon and I headed to Phoenix to see our families. After we dropped the kids off on December 26, it was an emotiona...
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Thanksgiving.

 Brandon and I had a quite Thanksgiving this year. Just the two of us, no traditional Thanksgiving day meal, because let's be honest it isn't that good anyway. So, we opted for something a little more our style, carne asada nachos! Anyway, I know Thanksgiving was over a week ago, but I think having a heart of gratitude is important anytime of the year.  So, here's a list of things I am thankful for: My faith and relationship with Jesus My husband Our three kids My parents, siblings, brother-in-laws, nieces/nephews Coffee Crime podcasts Audio books Photos Buying Christmas presents The way frost has settled the field in our backyard the last few days Trips to see my family My best friend, Megan Dinner with friends Ability to work Running The sauna Christmas decor Phone calls with my mom A warm house and fireplace My prayer journal Music
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TEDx.

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 A few weeks ago, I had the absolute privilege of watch my husband, Brandon, speak on the TEDx stage.  He is a public speaker by trade and speaks all over the country, I usually have the honor of watching him, but this time it was different.  I was able to witness his intense passion for speaking and helping others, this time it was in the red circle of the TEDx stage.  I am beyond proud of him and all that he has accomplished.  He works so hard for us that it was nice to see him succeed at something that he really wanted. We were able to take our oldest, Avery, with us as well.  And letting her see her dad's gifting and talent was incredible to witness. We spent the whole day at  TEDx, there were 15 speakers in total, and they asked Brandon to go last, because they knew he would be one of the strongest speakers and wanted to end the day on a high note.  And that they did.  Brandon blew everyone away with his communication, comedy, practical ...
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Seven Solutions.

  Seven Solutions to Seven Common Stepmom issues.  1.  Establishing Authority  - Establish authority gradually by building trust and showing respect for the children’s feelings. Work with your partner to present a united front on rules and expectations, ensuring that your role is clear but not forced. Consistency in expectations and grace helps the children learn the expectations.  2. Building a Bond with Stepchildren - Take the time to get to know your stepchildren’s interests and personalities without forcing a bond. Engage in activities they enjoy, listen actively to their concerns, and respect their boundaries. Let the relationship develop naturally, and be patient; bonds can take time to form. 3. Navigating Loyalty Conflicts    - Acknowledge the children’s feelings and reassure them that it's okay to love both their mom and their stepmom. Avoid negative talk about their mom. Encourage open communication and provide a safe space for them to express...
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Podcast.

  A few months ago, Brandon and I were asked to be on the No Grey Areas Podcast .  The host is Pat McCalla, Brandon's high school basketball coach and a former pastor of mine.  Crazy how worlds intersect. Brandon and I had no connection to each other when Pat was in each of our lives. Pat asked Brandon and I to come on the podcast and talk stepfamily life.  There's a stat that says up to 70% of current American families are impacted by blended families. We of course said yes, we would be honored.  We are by no means experts in this field, but we've learned a lot, read a lot, listened a lot, and have implemented several ideas that have helped make our family thrive. I'll share a few here. 1. We don't say the kids mom's name.  She is simply their mom. That's it.  It honors her position in their life, while removing the relationship connection associated with her name.   2. We always pick up the kids on transition days.  They never get drop...
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Vegas Baby.

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We spent the weekend in Vegas celebrating Brandon. Over a year ago we planned this trip, Jerry Seinfeld was playing at the Colosseum, a bucket list item for Brandon. This weekend came with a lot of planning and making sure Brandon had the best weekend possible. We also went to an exclusive magic show, called the Magician’s Study. It was amazing. We ate delicious food, Eataly, Prime, Alexxa’s, Ghirardelli. My main goal this weekend was for Brandon to have an incredible weekend of feeling loved, valued, heard, and understood. Every thing we did went smoothly. We truly had the best time and enjoyed being together making memories. Honestly not sure if this weekend or birthday can be topped, but we will try again next year.                  Love you, B. So grateful for our life together.
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Back To School.

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           Avery 11th -  Boston 9th -  Harper 6th    The first day of school...well sort of.  We were not scheduled to have the kids on their first week of school.  Which means no first day of school pictures. But I ended up picking them up from school on the first two days.  So, after the second day when we were all together and had a little bit of time to kill before Boston had to be back for football practice. I took them to Starbucks.  I was able to spend some quality time with them and hear all about their first (and second) days. I got heard all the details about teachers, friends, new school rules, and even heard about a new cute boy.  Thankful for these days with them.                                         
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